Opened the keepsake of your memories this evening. The red rose you gave me has lost its colour and meaning. People change, feelings change, colours fade, What doesn’t change are memories. They stay lull and still, So many unanswered questions that they drill. What we had within us is lost and gone forever, The red colour of our love that you promised will stay as bright as ever.
It was a gloomy autumn morning as she walked over towards the lonesome damson tree in her garden. The sky was a rusty grey engulfed in mist. A faint crackle was heard as she crushed the fatigued autumn leaves, which were slowly withering away…
Throwback to the days when the highlight of summers involved watching the cricket season!
Yuvraj Singh has always inspired me as an outstanding cricketer, but it was only when I met him that I got to know how much of a wonderful person he is inside out. Extremely humble and jolly, he is exactly what his personality depicts as.
His book “The test of my life” is a heart-rending and inspirational tale giving an insight into the most traumatic period of his life. With so many emotions flowing in, I would recommend everyone to read it as it is a perfect reflection of how sudden tests in life can emerge out of no where, however they have the power to turn you into a valiant survivor if you cling onto hope.
His NGO, Youwecan is working for a wonderful cause and helping countless cancer patients.
With a little hope, an extraordinary supportive mother by your side, a great vision, and the will power to fight amongst the odd circumstances, you can grow so much as a person and rise from the darkest shadows.
Your eyes, a mysterious kind of beauty, Irresistably, I gaze into a world so delicately tranquil, The sounds of the waves echoing throughout my soul, It is within your eyes I dream to take a little stroll, Your eyes, a different shade of blue, The sky dreams of being admired by you, The calm blue waters reside in your eyes, and the shells long for your gentle touch, They say you are a peculiar kind of existence, When we say we want to live in you, are we asking for too much? You close your eyes, The curtains close, The lights are dimmed, Our dreams left hanging in a silent abode.
You are truly blessed if you have that someone special in your life, who believes in you more than your ownself. Someone who thinks you that are are capable of achieving the impossible, someone who will be there for you when you fall, someone who will give you a hand to walk through an unstable rocky path… It could be anyone in your life, who puts your happiness first!
“The biggest difficulty is feeling closure and extremely lonely, and that loneliness is your worst enemy. You feel trapped in a dark place. You feel worthless and helpless. It’s terrible, it’s like you’re in a different zone of thoughts. You find happiness in nothing, nor do you try searching for happiness. You don’t want to be happy. The world seems like a gloomy, miserable and haunting place. You are your own enemy, you blame yourself, you hate yourself. You don’t want to do anything; life stands still for you. You just want to sleep with the hope that you will never wake up again.” These very personal thoughts and feelings were shared with me by an individual, who once suffered depression.
Upon hearing their experiences, there was a considerable amount I could relate to and I wanted to partially fulfil the aim of my writing. Initially, when I stepped into the world of writing, I had a distinct image in mind. A vision with a clear purpose to benefit others, and not to merely fabricate words to impress others. The concept “Words Can Heal” involves reaching out to heal and mend souls. Many people I have come across focus on the outer image of a person and do not care to take an insight into what is stirring up inside them. They place their concern in the outward image they choose to display to the world as they sense a fear of being judged!
Hence, today I penned down my thoughts and I aim to encourage those individuals suffering in silence to be more open about their mental health.
The National Health service UK defines clinical depression as more than simply feeling unhappy or fed up for a few days. According to the health line, depression is defined as a mood disorder. It may be described as feelings of sadness, loss or anger that interfere with a person’s everyday activities. Whatever the definition may be, it certainly has a distinct and more personalised meaning for each individual.
Depression differs from the usual mood swings we experience, and the symptoms vary from being short term, to average, or even long term. Depending on its intensity level, it can cause the affected person to suffer to varying degrees. This psychological state can significantly disrupt your daily routine, impact your social life, personal life, and negatively impact your work life. The symptoms vary from person to person sometimes being psychological, physical or sometimes can be anxiety triggers.
I want to bring attention to the real-life experiences as they are the ones that we can relate to. Most of the people I encountered to gather an insight, reflected the same dilemma, and that is, that they do have happy moments in their lives, but they are always tinged in sadness.
Someone poured their heart out and said: “Whenever somebody talks to me about depression, the first thing I always suggest is to seek professional help. I’ve been seeking therapy on and off since years. I’ve seen seven different therapists. Some have been good and some not that useful. Personally, I’ve never been told anything by a therapist that I haven’t already thought or read about myself. Apart from professional help, I have tried speaking to family as well but always regretted it afterwards because of their reactions. I think what a lot of people who suffer from depression want is empathy when we talk to someone. We want people to understand how we feel and not just have sympathy for us.”
As we see mental health issues escalating around us, it is essential we explore remedies that can help us grow out of this misery. Therapies, antidepressant medications, exercise, nutritional changes in diet, praying, contemplation, yoga, music, reading etc, all have proved to assist people in one way or the other to a certain extent. But the final rescue is at your own disposal. It is your own will power, which determines how you battle with this distress. There are two paths that you can choose from when you are drowning in depressing thoughts. There is a very fine line in between the two directions, in which you often find yourself hanging. While you are juggling and trying your best to maintain your balance, the real test lies in your resilience. Either you will break down completely or you will rise again. The choice is for you to make and the deciding force is your inner strength. Easier said than done, but that is what the process of recovery is, perpetual, and patience is the key to go with the flow.
Even if you detach and overcome this temporarily, I personally feel that depression takes a seat in the back of your minds somewhere and it never really goes away. It is a part of you, so embrace it with fortitude.
I once read somewhere that depression is feeling like you have lost something but having no clue when or where you last had it. Then one day, it comes to your realisation that what you actually lost is yourself.
I hope I don’t get to that point because the image above of the woman reflecting on life is me. I want to break this social stigma by saying that I have been suffering from mild depression on and off lately too. I try to be as positive as I can, however we all have our emotional breakdowns at some points in life. This is one of the many human traits and we simply cannot escape it, and we should not even try to do so. When we suffer from a physical health issue, we run off to seek immediate medical assistance as we fear the consequences. But why is it that when we suffer from a psychological disorder, we tend to hide it? Our outlook on depression is something I feel strongly about. Depression is like any other ailment, yet if you say to someone that you are feeling depressed, they tend to make an instant assumption that you are facing some problem in your life. Can one not be depressed without having a valid reason? Depression does not occur on a particular day and it can be triggered by anything. Sometimes, events build up and lead to depression, sometimes you don’t have any reason at all and you have no explanation for why you feel so dreadful. You simply do not find answers to these peculiar questions, which life throws at you.
Stephen Fry rightly said: “If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.”
I firmly believe that if the people around you are kind and understanding then your journey, no matter how long and arduous it is, it becomes a little easier. A little kindness, a companion to whom you can pour your heart out, a group of sincere friends, an understanding family and a non-judgemental society, all these are little saviours from the dark thoughts that prevent people from seeing the light. Many lives have been lost in the dark dungeons of depression and it is high time that we highlight and exchange our views about it on a wider scale.
It’s just the perception that needs to change so people don’t hold it back and share without the fear of being judged. If you are suffering from depression, speak it out and make sure your voice is heard! Please do not suffer in silence. There is always help available. Make sure you reach out in time before it is too late to travel out of the dark shadows.
I have played my part today, are you ready to do yours?
Hosting a super fun paw patrol themed birthday pawty!
Last year, I hosted a very exciting paw patrol themed birthday party for my son, who turned 7 last year! I know planning a birthday party can be super stressful and it’s a real struggle trying to make it all close to perfect and at the same time enjoyable and entertaining for your guests! With all the social media extravagant birthday celebrations we see day in day out, we want ours to be just as great if not better! Luckily, we have family and friends who help out in the organisation and prepping of the whole event and it makes the personalisation of the event so much more flexible and easier. Now let’s get into the nitty gritty of prior planning.
It’s always a good idea to have a theme in mind which you can work around, it just makes the shopping part so much easier! Therefore, for me, I knew I was going for a paw patrol themed party, so I had searched where to find different pieces of decor and luckily party delights had the majority of it, so to save time I went there. Party Delights is an absolute heaven for decorators. It has all the themes you can think of! They do themed goody bags, bunting, balloons, complementary tableware and basically everything you really need for the perfect party!
Before I ramble on about the menu, I have to mention how tasty ‘Rubbles chicken nuggets’ were! Now, getting back to the point, the menu… It is a great idea to let your creativity run wild by personalising your menu card to suit your chosen birthday theme!
The children absolutely loved having a super cool paw patrol themed menu and it definitely brought a great hype along with it when the food was served! Just imagine seeing your favourite character’s dishes on display, I mean how could you possibly resist Skye’s stuffed veg samosas and Zuma’s zesty spring rolls! You have to admit the menu card is super cool. I personalised this for my son’s paw patrol themed party!
Now, obviously ensure your menu is well-suited to your guests. As this was a children’s party, I kept the menu simple with little snacks that the kids could easily indulge in! On top of the menu, we also had a very unique desserts menu, accompanied with fancy paw patrol themed menu cards for each dish and dessert!
Hosting and entertaining!
I’ve highlighted the planning and having a fancy themed menu in my previous posts. Now, for the entertainment part. My child is obsessed with bouncy castles and I’ve seen children obsess over them too!
Some of the best advantages of having a bouncy castle is that the children remain well occupied and happy! Then we have the usual party games, musical chairs, musical statues etc. but they can get a little repetitive, so it is always a good idea to do something a little different. Why not have a face painter? Change the games around. Add a little twist to them, the children love it!
I usually hire a popcorn and slush machine, even at my big age I cannot get enough of both, never mind the little ones! Ofcourse, I could not stop myself from personalising those either, I attached little posters to the carts which you can see in the images! ‘Pupcorn’ and ‘pause for a puppy slushy’. Oh so exciting!
There are numerous ways to keep your guests entertained and remember if you have parents attending, make sure there is a surprise game for them too, get them up on their toes playing a game of musical chairs or doing a raffle!
The main item has to be the cake on a birthday as it enhances your theme and completes the decor. The cake in the picture above was made by my favourite cake lady who never fails to amaze with her great work!
That’s it for now folks. I hope you had fun reading about my birthday planning and hosting experience! Feel free to incorporate these ideas into your future paw-ties! 🐾😉
I came across this image as I was scrolling through my camera roll this morning. Quite instantly, this red flower caught my attention and I started to gaze at it in awe. It was evidently more noticeable infront of the ‘ordinary’ green grass, and the least I took notice of was the green weed! I realised how selfishly, or let’s say naturally we are attracted to things that look ‘good’ to us on the outside and therefore we give them all great deal of attention, we pick out the weeds from our beautifully grown gardens thinking they look unattractive, whilst totally ignoring the many benefits they bring to our gardens! We don’t even stop to consider them, take notice of them, or to even to research their purposes. Just imagine the feeling of being unnoticed and unwanted by everyone merely due to your appearance, which you have no control over. Just like plants or flowers have no control over their outward appearance, similarly, we humans cannot choose the colour of our hair, the colour of our skin, and our appearance. However, what we do have a choice over is our character, our morals, our values and the ways in which we decide to help and benefit the people around us. These are the important things, not appearance! It’s rightly said “looks fade, but a good heart keeps you beautiful forever”.